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“How does time perspective shape our lives?” is the question…
In The Time Paradox, Drs. Zimbardo and Boyd draw on thirty years of pioneering research to reveal, for the first time, how your individual time perspective shapes your life and is shaped by the world around you. Further, they demonstrate that your and every other individual’s time zones interact to create national cultures, economics, and personal destinies.
What is sexy? Have fun exploring ideas of sexyness with K-Y Brand. This is a fun place to share your quick thoughts on the concept of “sexy”. Of-course, it’s no fun giving if you’re not receiving, so don’t be afraid to play around with the swirling sexy phrases – here you can see what others have offered up.
What is most interesting is the filtering tool to the left of the phrases. By de-selecting gender and moving the age markers around, you get a rough idea of who thinks what is sexy. I’m curious to know how many people 70+ have shared their thoughts. (Maybe you should send this to your grandma?) I’m most interested in the male 20-30 demographic, so I turned the women off and adjusted the age marker. A few definitions of sexy appeared: naked on an elephant, naked bus driving, naked jumping jacks. And corndogs. At least K-Y can confidently infer that men think nakedness is sexy. Hah. Jokes aside, there’re some sweetly unique responses as well.
I appreciate the fresh and fun vibe of this interactive experience. Unlike a lot of brands, K-Y isn’t telling us how to think or act, what to buy, or what kind of person we should be. As they say under the “Sexy Is” rollover, our definition of sexy is much more interesting than theirs (true), and by collectively sharing our own “sexy mantras”, we can help create a create a new attitude of what’s hot.
So what is sexy?
Most of us have heard of speed-dating, where strangers have five minutes or less to get to know a handful of potentials, then jot down the names of any person who struck their fancy. But this is something I’d never heard of – speed-dating organizations or events specifically for people 55+. The Minneapolis Star Tribune reports on what may be the first-ever event for older people. Walker Methodist, a senior services organization, wanted to create new ways for people to have fun, and one of the ideas thrown out during focus groups was speed-dating.
I say, why not?
Last week, the first event took place and drew people (mostly women) ages 59 to 98.
Some of the touching and very honest remarks throughout the event:
“I’m nervous, I’m nervous.” (woman walking into event)
“I’m used to fun…my husband was fun. We need to have more fun.” (woman, widow after 52 years of marriage)
Are there speed-dating events for the 55+ set? If not, there should be. Speed-dating might seem like a ‘young’ person’s game, but these same people who speed-date (or online date) do so because they are 1) frustrated – they find it challenging to meet the right person and 2) a bit adventurous and risk-taking – they seek something new and fun. Of-course, there’re other reasons (some not so authentic) for subjecting yourself for possible rejection 5xs faster than going the fate/serendipitous route…My point is that the 55+ MN speed-daters, and possiby others who share their feelings, aren’t unlike the ‘younger’ people speed-dating and online dating.
Here’s an interesting product concept from Jackie Lee and Hyemin Chung at the MIT Media Labs: the Lover’s Cup. This is an LED-enhanced, wi–fi enabled pair of cups meant for sharing the experience of drinking from afar. An example usage scenario – say my lovah and I are in separate locations and I wish to connect with him. All I need to do is pick up my cup and take a sip. My lovah will then see his own cup light up, which tells him I wish to share a drinking moment with him.
But wait – the Lover’s Cup does more than act as a virtual toasting gimmick. With a sip or a shake of the cup, users are communicating their affinity towards one another. The soft beacon of light reminds the user that their special someone is thinking of them.
(Now if only I’d known of these cups sooner…they could have been useful in past long-distance relationships that ended up on the cutting room floor…)